This weekend I went to my friend’s wedding in Toronto, Canada. There’s a lot to say about how wonderful the wedding and weekend was. From traveling with my boyfriend, to quality time with my friends, to being a part of the behind the scenes of the wedding (such as seeing the boys get fitted into their tuxes), to the beautiful ceremony and reception, and everything in between. Everything was effortless, classic, modern, and beautiful. Food, outfits, decorations… I was extremely happy to be there. And not just be there, but be in the moment. For you see, since we were in Canada none of us could use our phones. No data, no texts, no calls. Many of the groomsmen (the people I hung out with the most) work for tech companies. These are guys who are constantly on their phones.
All of us were constantly in the present. I haven’t experienced that in a long, long time. Ever since Thailand or Holden, where we also didn’t have cell phones or computers. One forgets how cell phones transport you to another world and time. As Amber Case said in “We Are All Cyborgs Now,” cell phones enable us to time travel, for in our pockets are these little universes that expand and change. It brings us to people who are not within our physical reach and news events that are not within the boundaries of our own country. We can watch live streamed videos of wars or celebration. And that’s all quite cool, but then our faces are constantly pointed down to a little illuminated rectangle. It’s so individualized — you can show someone what’s on your screen, but it’s not the same as conversing physically, where your voice and gesticulations travel from the boundaries of your body.
My roommate sent me this link about people ale on the streets on their phones. This weekend was fantastic not just because I got to participate in my friend’s special weekend, nor because my boyfriend and I became even closer, or because I had so many wonderful conversations with new friends and even newer friends — but because we were there. In that weekend. Without distraction.